It would be great if we lived in a world where marriage was all butterflies and rainbows, but let’s be honest…fights happen. But just because fighting is inevitable doesn’t mean we can’t control how we fight. Here are five ways to fight fair:
No name-calling. Sticks and stones, right? Wrong. Calling your spouse names during a fight can have serious consequences on your relationship. Take the high road.
Stick with the issue at hand. There is no way to move forward if you keep talking about what’s already been done. Let go of things in the past you can’t control.
Keep the volume down. Maintain a calm tone and your spouse will likely do the same. An argument is much more productive when people are simply talking rather than yelling at one another.
The blame game. It’s easy to point a finger during an argument, but try to replace “You” with “I”. Instead of “You did this” or “You did that” try saying, “When this happened, it made me feel….”
Go to bed angry. We’ve all heard otherwise but it’s important to realize if a conversation isn’t going anywhere. Consider curbing the discussion until you both have time to cool down and readdress it later.
And if you get into an argument on Fday, go on your date anyway and end it in bed. It can’t get any better than that!